When discussing the importance of conflict management, especially in keeping children out of adult conversations, the dynamics change drastically when a family is going through a legal separation. It's essential to recognize that pre-teens and adolescents have their own voices and choices. They deserve the opportunity to express how they envision their schedules, balancing their education, friendships, school activities, and overall daily lives.
Children Are Not Tools in a Divorce
Children should never be treated as tools to be pulled from one parent to another, nor should they become messengers in a messy divorce. In many legal systems, the importance of the child's perspective is recognized. Courts often seek to hear the child's views and feelings, as it can provide invaluable insights. When adults step back and listen to their children's unbiased opinions, they can gain a new perspective, which is also helpful for judges when making decisions in custody and visitation arrangements.
The Emotional Toll on Children
During the divorce process, children often try to please both parents, leading to situations where they may feel bullied or pressured in both homes, sometimes without the parents even realizing the emotional trauma being inflicted. It’s crucial for parents to recognize these dynamics and take steps to protect their children’s emotional well-being.
How InventiveMinds Can Help
At InventiveMinds, we offer child-voice reports designed to ensure that children’s voices are heard and that parents gain a better understanding of their child’s perspective.
What Does the Child-Voice Report Entail?
- Court Order Requirement: A court order is necessary to initiate a child-voice report.
- Consent: Both parents and the child must consent to the report. If one parent agrees and the other does not, the judge has the authority to order the completion of the report.
- Confidentiality: The child’s privacy is respected, particularly regarding topics they wish to keep confidential.
- Specialized Meetings: The child meets separately with a specialist, who ensures the child feels safe and heard. This specialist also meets with the parent responsible for the child’s care.
- Report Submission: Once completed, the report is provided to the legal representative and the court system.
If you would like to learn more about how a child-voice report can benefit your family, please contact us for a free consultation.
Authored By:
Rose Morsh
RECE, Parenting Practitioner,
Family & Child-Inclusive Mediator,
Collaborative Law Family & Child Expert,
International Parent Coordinator & Family Mediator,
Child Voice Practitioner.
By Inventive Minds Kidz Academy
Added Wed, Aug 14 2024
