Assertive parenting is a powerful approach that emphasizes emotional connection and effective boundary-setting with your child. By understanding their underlying emotions and needs, parents can create a nurturing environment while instilling essential values and rules. In this blog post, we will explore the key principles of assertive parenting at different stages of a child's development.
1. Emotional Connection: Hearing Your Child's Voice
One of the fundamental aspects of assertive parenting is being emotionally connected with your child. Just like an iceberg, where only a fraction is visible, emotions have underlying causes. It is crucial to understand what lies beneath their surface emotions, such as hunger, tiredness, adjusting to a new routine, night terrors, or simply needing a comforting hug. By listening to your child and addressing their hidden emotions, you can strengthen the emotional bond between you.
2. Empathy and Avoiding Overprotection
Assertive parenting involves being empathetic and caring towards your child without becoming an overprotective "helicopter" parent. Strike a balance between providing support and allowing your child to face age-appropriate challenges. This approach helps them develop resilience and problem-solving skills, preparing them for the future.
3. Setting Boundaries Based on Age Group
Every developmental stage comes with its unique challenges. Here's how assertive parenting can be applied at different age groups:
a) Infants:
For infants, it is okay for them to wait and cry before a meal is served or to cry in a safe crib before falling asleep, as long as you are closely monitoring them. Setting boundaries while ensuring their safety helps establish a sense of security.
b) Toddlers:
Teaching toddlers about time and personal space becomes critical. Not all of their needs have to be immediately met. Give them five minutes before attending to their requests, and introduce the concept of time using clocks and routine pictures. Encourage them to express their preferences and use their voice in decision-making regarding activities. Being present and involved in their routines is key.
c) Preschoolers:
In this stage, involve your child in rule-making. Sit down together and create rules like cleaning up toys before bedtime, with rewards like a high-five. Allow them to decide their playtime in their room within set hours and reward them with the privilege of choosing their bedtime book. Implement screen time limits, such as 30 minutes before bedtime. By involving them in rule-making, you encourage responsibility and accountability.
4. Consistency and Family Values
As a family, it is important to choose what is essential for you and align it with your values. Use your family's values and household rules as a guide in your parenting journey. Once these rules are established, stick to them consistently. Consistency builds trust and helps children understand expectations, fostering their sense of security.
Assertive parenting is a powerful approach that allows parents to build emotional connections with their children while setting appropriate boundaries. By understanding their child's emotions, needs, and age-specific challenges, parents can create a nurturing environment. Remember to be empathetic, involve your child in decision-making, and stay consistent with your family's values and rules. With assertive parenting, you can foster your child's emotional well-being and prepare them for a successful future.
Authored By:
Rose Morsh
RECE, Parenting Practitioner,
Family Mediator & Child Voice Practitioner
By Inventive Minds Kidz Academy
Added Wed, May 31 2023
