As a parent, one of your responsibilities is teaching your child good behavior. This takes time and patience, but it's essential to learn effective and healthy ways to discipline them.
Here are some positive methods for teaching children to manage their behavior, keep themselves safe, and promote their healthy development. These include:
- Set Clear Boundaries: Establish consistent rules that your child can understand and follow. Explain these rules in a way that suits their age.
- Show and Explain: Teach your child right from wrong using calm words and actions. Demonstrate the behaviors you want them to adopt.
- Impose Consequences: Calmly and firmly clarify the consequences if they misbehave. For instance, let them know that not tidying up their toys means you'll put them away for the rest of the day. Be ready to enforce this immediately. Avoid taking away something they genuinely need, like a meal.
- Listen Actively: Listening is crucial. Let your child finish their story before helping them solve the problem. Look for patterns in misbehavior, such as jealousy, and discuss it with your child rather than simply giving consequences.
- Acknowledge Good Behavior: Children need to know when they do something wrong and when they do something right. Notice and praise their good behavior. Be specific, like saying, "You did an excellent job putting that toy away!"
- Offer Your Attention: The most effective discipline tool is attention. Use it to reinforce good behaviors and discourage bad ones. Remember, all children crave their parents' attention.
- Choose Not to React: If your child isn't doing something dangerous and receives plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring bad behavior can be an effective way to stop it. Ignoring can also teach children the natural consequences of their actions. For instance, if they keep dropping cookies on purpose, they'll run out of cookies to eat. If they throw and break a toy, they won't be able to play with it. They'll learn not to drop cookies and to handle their toys more carefully.
- Anticipate Challenges: Plan ahead for situations where your child might have trouble behaving. Prepare them for upcoming activities and explain your expectations.
- Redirect Misbehavior: Sometimes, children misbehave out of boredom or lack of knowledge. Find an alternative activity for them.
Learn from Mistakes, Including Your Own:
Remember that as a parent, you can take some time for yourself if you feel overwhelmed. Ensure your child is safe, take a few minutes to relax, breathe deeply, or talk to a friend. Once you feel better, return to your child, embrace each other, and start fresh.
If you don't handle a situation well the first time, don't worry too much. Reflect on what you could have done differently and try it next time. If you feel you've made a genuine mistake in the heat of the moment, wait until you've calmed down, apologize to your child, and explain how you'll handle it differently in the future. Make sure to keep your promise. This shows your child a positive way to recover from mistakes.
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Authored By:
Rose Morsh
RECE, Parenting Practitioner,
Family Mediator & Child Voice Practitioner
By Inventive Minds Kidz Academy
Added Wed, Sep 13 2023
